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"Keep company with good men
and good men you will imitate." 

Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
--- Proverbs 27:17

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Shelter Manager, Harry Smith
     reminds us this Christmas season of some of America's more famous Homeless.  "I have found these people enormously interesting, sometimes charming,and occasionally heroic.  It helps that I come from a similar [hard living] background. Most are just doing the best they can, you have to understand that everybody has hard times." 
 
OUR PHILOSOPHY:
Find a hurt and heal it;
  find a need and fill it.
     After we fill people's needs, then we focus on people's capacities.  People will come to a church when they know they will be empowered there.
 
     Among the more famous homeless there have been Nobel Prize, Oscar, Emmy, Grammy & Country Music award winners.  Not to mention best-selling authors, recipients of both the Medal of Freedom & Knighthoods.
HERE ARE JUST A FEW:
 
***John Barrymore *** Drew Carey *** Jim Carrey *** Charlie Chaplin *** Troy Donahue *** Ella Fitzgerald *** Kelsey Grammar *** Woody Guthrie *** Harry Houdini *** Burl Ives *** Jewel *** Eartha Kitt *** David Letterman *** Sally Jessy Raphael *** Joan Rivers *** Col. Sanders ***William Shatner *** Marc Singer *** Patti Smith *** Hillary Swank *** John Woo ***
 

SPIRITUAL MATURITY

One of our pastors asked the congregation to think for a moment about the truly bad things that had happened to them in their lives.  After they had a moment to do so, he then suggested that they give thanks to God for everything they had endured. And then, he shouted, "Praise God. Give God the thanks and the glory." I was surprised by the sudden shouts of praise and the gratitude that pattered around me like a soft rain.

"Count it all joy...when you meet various trials, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness."            ---James 1:2

What seems clear here is that it is not so much a celebration of failure as gratitude to God that we are tested and that anything can be turned into an occasion for growth and new life.  Furthermore this approach makes it all right to share the struggles, to be open about the troubled nights of the soul. Surely, if we can place any problem, even death, within the wider mercy of God's providence,  we can also give people permission to talk about the down-side of their lives. No event exhausts God's capacity to work with it...

PASTORS MUST BE DIFFERENT & "WALK THE WALK"

In addition, there is a certain kind of almost "magical" belief about a religious leader.  Truly devoted religious leaders have "access" to God. God listens to them. They have "influence." If the pastor is not, then, different, he or she cannot be finally efffective or of any real help with the Deity. A genuine person of God carries respect and power for hard living people.

Hard Living Ministry

It is not easy to work with hard living people, anyone who begins such a ministry needs to understand what one is starting. I have found their opinions and concerns unusually helpful and on the mark.

"You can't do this with gimmicks. You can't gimmick people in. You got to deal with survival and with everyday life. Worship is not disassociated from living., It grows out of it, out of survival. You have to deal with the authenticity of their everyday life. These are not people we seek to become the church. They are the church. They are Jesus. They are the least of these. They are just what Matthew 25 says. "

You build quality relationships on involvement and being. The church must deal with the issues of food, clothing, jobs, medical care, transportation, housing, etc. The church "either has to do it or refer people" to agencies that can. Discipleship means meeting people where they are and being with them all the way, it's a process. It's the building of a life-long relationship.  The key is the people in the congregation who embrace them and care about them both inside and outside the church.

So, at each service we focus on a theme, like forgiveness, then people in the congregation share what it felt like to be or not be forgiven, to forgive or not to forgive. This is then followed with a prayer time, when people ask for very specific prayers. They are now sharing the word and "having church" themselves. This establishes trust. They're doing worship for each other and devoping a sense of community.

THREE STREET PRACTICES

The hard living especially attempt to Protect and Share with newcomers.  You can't underestimate the power of sharing bread. I had never understood fully how powerful food is. To watch people who have no power share food. Or, to see how important cigarettes and quarters are and how they get shared. Such practices are forms of protection that get worked out between people. They provide information, help people make it on the street, and tell them were the shelters are. A lot of 'street action' is teaching and training.

There is related to a third street practice of Listening. Hard living people "know how to listen without having to fix it." They will listen to the same story over and over again because they know the person needs to be heard, and they know that there are no answers to some things...

Most churches only want to celebrate success.  Respectibility is so powerful in those churches that people will not talk about their failures, their weaknesses, their emptiness and loneliness, their inadequacies, and the sheer ragged edges of their lives. But on the street it is different. One cannot hide some things, and the failure and the bad times come with the territory. So, it is simply not possible to argue credibly that one has it made and that one's life is going swimmingly when you are poor and without a residence, a job, or food.

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